Another tragedy. Nice, France July 14, 2016

Another tragedy. Another attack. More lives lost. I can't make any sense of it. None of this violence makes sense. The weapons are airplanes, shoes, explosives, handguns, assault rifles, a tractor trailer. Who is the enemy? Where do they live? Why are we enemies? Why so much hate? What can we do as a community, as a country to affect change, What can I do? Today I have only questions. 

I'm writing because it's the only concrete thing I know to do today to feel better. I'm not sure I want to feel better though. The family in Austin who lost their dad/husband/sibling/uncle and 11 year old son/brother/cousin/grandson won't feel better - for a long, long time. And there are all the others we'll never know. The others whose lives were cut short simply because they were in the path of a lunatic set on a course of bloody, deadly destruction.

I have no answers for how to cope with the unpredictable ground upon which we all stand. It's unsteady, I'm unsteady.

I'm also a mother, a wife, a friend, a family member, and a therapist. And with the rest of you I need to keep going. What I know as a therapist is that we heal in relationship. As we move along in our lives we need loved ones. We need to lean on them and they need us. So let's not isolate in our grief. Reach out. Hug your family. Let's spread as much love as we can to combat the hate.